I cannot even begin to describe how mortified I was when I picked my son up from pre school the other day. My kids have been going to the same pre school for 8 years now so I know the teachers pretty well. Nonetheless, I wanted to break down in tears when I walked in and they told me my 4 year old had had about 10-12 meltdowns!! They had already told me a few weeks ago that they were working on a reward system for him, he’d get a treat if he didn’t get upset at school. I couldn’t believe this was happening. I expect fits and tantrums as home, but at school! I wanted to die!
On this 10-12 tantrum day, he was getting upset over stupid things. Not standing by a particular person in line, not being goose in duck, duck, goose and something about circle time. The teacher went so far as to say that he was being called crybaby and starting to be excluded from games. My heart broke.
I am seriously beside myself with what to do. I’ve NEVER experienced anything like this with my older two. He is by far the wildest of the bunch, although the fourth might give him a run for his money…
So, I get him in the car and tell him it sounded like he had been naughty at school. He told me it wasn’t fun, he didn’t want to go to school, he didn’t like it!! I don’t know what to do. The teachers have not told me of any problems he’s having with other kids and that his behavior started in Jan., when he turned 4. In reality, the way they describe events that set him off sound more like him acting like a brat, not getting what he wants when he wants it.
We’re trying to remain calm with him, making him stop crying and talk so we can understand him but now it’s time to throw down the hammer. I have to say if I really analyzed how he is disciplined, I would say we’ve gotten lazy, tired and inconsistent. We try not to give in, but some days it’s “give him whatever to make him stop the crazy train”.
Do or did you have a child that regressed? What did you do to correct it? What tricks worked for you?